That noise can not be blocked by hiding yourself behind the closed door of the bathroom…they find you there.
The noise will find you at night when you climb into bed next to your cos sleeping child that cries, laughs, snores and even smacks her lips in her sleep.
It follows you with those tiny three year old legs everywhere you go. The constant yelling, the constant screaming, the “please can I have a snack? Why is it so windy outside, why is there an ant there? Why? Why? Why?
Is it wrong to want peace and quite for longer then a few seconds? Every one says “that’s what having children is” or “better you just get used to it” as I pull my hair out because I can’t take this “advice” for the billionth time. As a mom, going crazy from no peace I will tell you it’s not wrong!
As a society we learn to just deal, we deal with having a job we hate, we just deal with a rude professor, we just accept. We just deal that as a mother we won’t get any quite….is that the right way to deal with it though? Why can’t we make it a priority to have a little more quite time, especially when we’re about to have about breakdown without it?
What I’m trying to say is, don’t you dare feel guilty. If you need some quite time, do it. Take care of yourself and do this one little thing for yourself so all hell doesn’t break out. Do it before you get resentful, before you actually pull your hair out, before you start yelling about the little things because your already stressed out.
- Tell your partner to watch the kids for a few minutes as you walk out the door to get a coffee or tea
- Pick up library books on your own. Your kids missing one library trip won’t hurt them.
- Set up a big bowl of water in the kitchen on a kid table, add bubbles let your kids play and you go hide in your bedroom, if you can fit into your closest you can have a few extra minutes of silence because they can’t find you there.
- Put the kids to bed a little earlier. Bonus if you have them outside running for an hour and they will be so tired they might get to sleep quicker.
- Have the kids help with the chores that you normally do after bedtime so that you don’t have to spend your free time doing them and you can relax.
- Ask a babysitter or family or friend to watch your child(ren) for a couple hours, not because your busy just to be alone, do not do erands or chores, just relax.
Don’t feel guilty, guaranteed your not the only one feeling the same way, atleast be the one that does something about it.